Relationship Talk
(Pulse)
There is a girl
I have been dating for months now. I truly love her and want to marry
her but she says no sex till after marriage.
I can't stand that because she is not even a virgin. What should I do, please?
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Hello,
Thanks for reaching out to me on this matter.
First
and foremost, I need to point out to you that pre-marital sex is a big
issue for loads of people in this part of the world.
The
fact that she's no longer a virgin has no bearing on her decision to
either have sex with you or not. It's what she wants and that has to be
respected, especially by you.
Having
cleared those two issues, what's left to say is that you might not make a
breakthrough with the sex request. And, really, you should maybe stop
pressurizing her for it.
Here is why; if you keep asking, she might get more resolute and resist you further.
Mounting
pressure on her for sex, when she clearly wants to wait till you are
both married might get her thinking that's all you want from her.
I'm
sure you must have heard of guys that sleep with girls and dump them
immediately afterwards. Now, while that might not be what you want to
do, it might appear so to her and the result of this will be for her to
tighten her defense and in the long run, get fed up and break up with
you.
That, my friend, is a very huge possibility.
If you are planning to be with her long term, why not wait? If you love her really, I think it might be worth the wait.
If,
on the other hand, sex is really that important to you, you should
maybe leave her since that appears to be one aspect you both clearly
disagree on.
I hope you find this useful, and get your desire.
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